Wanting to give her the best fit I could, I sand the knowledge I had learned from Snow Flower. "Everyone needs clothing-no matter how cool it is in summer or how warm it is in winter-so make clothes for others without being asked. Even if the table is plentiful, let your in-laws eat first. Work hard and remember three things: Be god to your in-laws and always show respect, be good to your husband and always weave for him, be good to your children and always be a model of decorum to them. If you do these things, your new family will treat you kindly. In that fine home, be calm of heart. Lisa See
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Chinese tradition says that one should always be kind to one's in-laws. It further stresses that you should always show respect to your in-laws, which means you should not try to get ahead of them or compete with them. You should not act like the other people in the family are beneath you or use them as an example of what you can do without earning it. If you are kind, they will treat you well.

Source: Snow Flower And The Secret Fan

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